Who's+important?

=Who's important? =

I talk to the important people in my life about how I want to live right up to The End:


 *  husband
 * 20 something children
 *  sister and brother
 * friends
 * community (in my case, exercise buddies)

I found that they each have:


 * different expectations of me
 * different plans for me

And they:
 * think they’re the one (s) who know me better than anyone else
 * are ready to argue me into seeing it their way
 * are interested in my 'wishes', but reluctant to talk about their own (see Why is it so hard to talk about The End)

I'm glad I've started these conversations. Last thing I want is fighting over what I would and wouldn't want.

One of my next tasks: figuring out who should be my substitute decision-maker (s), talking over my thoughts with them, and making sure they're ok with carrying out my decisions.